Comments on: Dumpee Syndrome http://thebetsygspot.com/dumpee-syndrome Love, life, and sex in the suburbs Tue, 06 Jan 2009 03:26:39 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Six-Month Relationship | The BetsyG-Spot http://thebetsygspot.com/dumpee-syndrome#comment-351 Six-Month Relationship | The BetsyG-Spot Fri, 12 Dec 2008 11:14:51 +0000 http://thebetsygspot.com/?p=112#comment-351 [...] posts have generated a fair amount of traffic through searches, including the Mirena post, Dumpee Syndrome, Size Inflation, and Does God Speak Through Phallus Impudicus. Solving the Gay Marriage Problem got [...] [...] posts have generated a fair amount of traffic through searches, including the Mirena post, Dumpee Syndrome, Size Inflation, and Does God Speak Through Phallus Impudicus. Solving the Gay Marriage Problem got [...]

]]> By: Tom http://thebetsygspot.com/dumpee-syndrome#comment-218 Tom Sun, 05 Oct 2008 11:50:33 +0000 http://thebetsygspot.com/?p=112#comment-218 Perhaps Dumpee Syndrome is closely related to the behavior of young children when the toy with which they've become bored suddenly have that toy taken away and given to another children. Screaming and tantrums soon ensue. Or it could also be related to being the one who is doing the dumping. If you do the deed, then you're in charge and something has happened to make the relationship unbearable (and that could include having met someone else). Since you precipitated the breakup, you have thought about it enough ahead of time so it's not a surprise. And, finally, it's much easier to reject someone than to be rejected! I had a similar experience where I was dating an alcoholic, chain smoking, and adorable woman. The alcoholism revealed itself slowly so I found myself generating excuse after excuse for her and hoped she would change. When she left my bed on a Sunday morning and said she would be back by the afternoon I thought nothing of it. She never came back that day. She called late that night, drunk, and apologized for going back to her old boyfriend (and current boss!) and that I should dump her. Great advice that I didn't take. The more things became unacceptable to a "normal" me, the more I clung to her and the relationship. When she called it off, I was devastated. Makes absolutely no sense, does it? :-) Tom Perhaps Dumpee Syndrome is closely related to the behavior of young children when the toy with which they’ve become bored suddenly have that toy taken away and given to another children. Screaming and tantrums soon ensue. Or it could also be related to being the one who is doing the dumping. If you do the deed, then you’re in charge and something has happened to make the relationship unbearable (and that could include having met someone else). Since you precipitated the breakup, you have thought about it enough ahead of time so it’s not a surprise. And, finally, it’s much easier to reject someone than to be rejected!

I had a similar experience where I was dating an alcoholic, chain smoking, and adorable woman. The alcoholism revealed itself slowly so I found myself generating excuse after excuse for her and hoped she would change. When she left my bed on a Sunday morning and said she would be back by the afternoon I thought nothing of it. She never came back that day. She called late that night, drunk, and apologized for going back to her old boyfriend (and current boss!) and that I should dump her. Great advice that I didn’t take. The more things became unacceptable to a “normal” me, the more I clung to her and the relationship. When she called it off, I was devastated. Makes absolutely no sense, does it? :-)

Tom

]]> By: Will http://thebetsygspot.com/dumpee-syndrome#comment-159 Will Wed, 03 Sep 2008 13:33:23 +0000 http://thebetsygspot.com/?p=112#comment-159 Great entry! I've been on both ends of a breakup and on the dumper side recently so I can understand the whole syndrome. In my case, I had the dumper syndrome and it probably took me about a month to get over it as well. Keep up the great work! Great entry! I’ve been on both ends of a breakup and on the dumper side recently so I can understand the whole syndrome. In my case, I had the dumper syndrome and it probably took me about a month to get over it as well.

Keep up the great work!

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